Cornering Cupid » Hard Candy http://www.corneringcupid.com Black. Love. Life. Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:01:51 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Is Facebook the demise of healthy relationships or a necessary evil? http://www.corneringcupid.com/2010/01/21/is-facebook-the-demise-of-healthy-relationships-or-a-necessary-evil/ http://www.corneringcupid.com/2010/01/21/is-facebook-the-demise-of-healthy-relationships-or-a-necessary-evil/#comments Thu, 21 Jan 2010 07:45:30 +0000 Hard Candy http://www.corneringcupid.com/?p=388
friendly stalking

friendly stalking

We all have friends (maybe even yourself) who have been guilty of facebook stalking someone who you just started dating or have been dating for a while. Friending someone you are dating starts off as a seemingly cute and innocent way to get things rolling. You are opening a new channel of communication and providing an outlet for someone to get to know a little bit more about you. And hey, who doesn’t like the occasional poke now and then – which what does poking someone even mean? However, it never fails, at some point, things always seem to turn bad and you become “that person” who is reading every single facebook post and photo comment over the past two years, questioning why is the guy I am dating friends with this stripper-like woman named “Mercedes”. Then you start wondering how does he even know her? Did he date her? What kind of man am I dealing with? Next thing you know, it is 2am and you have checked out each of his 425 FB friends, determined which friends you have as mutual friends and figured out the chronological order of his past girlfriends.

At the end of the day, what have you really achieved? Facebook has left you with even more questions about a person than you had to begin with!

All the while you are having to remember and pretend to be surprised when information is actually revealed to you by the person, since there would be no logical explanation for your knowing certain things other than the fact that you have turned into this obsessive-compulsive facebook stalker.

What ever happened to getting to know someone the old-fashioned way through conversations and dating? Why do we feel the need to dissect every morsel of cyberspace information about someone? Granted, I figured out that my ex had been cheating on me based on my own facebook investigations. So, is it naive to think that a little light facebook stalking isn’t warranted from time to time?

At any rate, there is no disputing that facebook has changed the realm and dynamics of dating and relationships. But, is it a healthy, much needed change or the demise of the natural order of dating progression?

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