Some women are so stuck on the premise or idea of marriage that they come off the wrong way and look desperate. If she’s openly stating that she was trying to find a husband in side of a year, then that says more than simple desperation to me…that says she doesn’t know how to go about looking for the things that will make a long term relationship work.

Meaning, if all a woman is out to do is find a husband, yes, most of us as men can pick up on that and with the slightest twinge of desperation comes the increased capacity for drama queen/psycho-girl tendencies. It simply suggests a certain degree of emotional instability which is what (more often than not) makes men run.

If a woman is “actively on the prowl” to get a husband then it’s going to elude her because the way she comes across will send up a red flag in the eyes of most men and worse still, she’s looking at the characteristics (financial, physical, etc.) of a man rather than getting to know what’s in his heart…

You have to really get to know someone on a deeper level, face the realities and faults/ intricacies in the personalities of both parties to make a marriage and longer lasting relationship work and most folks who move that fast in a year’s time end up in divorce not too long thereafter…

Just my thoughts…

I think she needs to be happy with herself and love will eventually find her.

And, yes, she’s reasonably attractive. Her beauty is reflected much better in the video than the unflattering photo.

I give her props for allowing herself to be so vulnerable and honest in front of an unknown audience.

Reasonably attractive??? Most men I know would not date her on looks alone. You combine lack of attraction with desparation, and just like you said, men run for the hills. Ain’t no one I know trying to marry New York’s mama. But like you said, SOMEONE should share her level of desperation and want to date her. I guess eHarmony woulda been too easy.