Just over a year ago, a woman named Neenah began a well-publicized effort to find a husband by the end of 2009. Naming her experiment “52weeks2findhim,” she blogged, completed weekly challenges, posted videos, and took suggestions from friends and strangers.
No luck. The experiment is over, she’s still single (no boyfriend, no prospects, no stalker, no friend with benefits — nothing!), and she’s taking a year off from dating.
52 weeks. Nothing to show for it. What happened?!
I perused 52weeks2findhim.com. Neenah is reasonably attractive, smart, and actually has a delightful, warm, and open personality. Not to mention, she came up with this genius idea that got her tons of attention and actually followed through with it. She’s pretty fun. I’d be friends with her. Her weave/wig is unflattering and distracting at times, but I don’t think we can blame the failure on that. This woman should be dating SOMEONE if she wants to be.
My analysis: Men can smell desperation a mile a way. And deciding that you will go to any lengths to meet the man you’ll marry in a 12 month period looks desperate by any measure. I bet she meets someone during her year off.
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#1 by Larry on January 8, 2010 - 11:57 am
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Unfortunately there are just not enough men to go around. Sorry sisters but it is our time and our day. Guys have the leverage these days and that is just the way it is. If you want a man you have to think outside the box. If you are doing what your gfs are doing, you can forget it.
#2 by RichBrand on January 8, 2010 - 11:57 am
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I know I will be considered a jerk for this but, oh well…….
Reasonably attractive??? Most men I know would not date her on looks alone. You combine lack of attraction with desparation, and just like you said, men run for the hills. Ain’t no one I know trying to marry New York’s mama. But like you said, SOMEONE should share her level of desperation and want to date her. I guess eHarmony woulda been too easy.
#3 by JustinCase on January 8, 2010 - 3:10 pm
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Is the inline picture with the post the same person as the video??????? If so, how old is the picture? I’m thinking she just wanted to make a name for herself under the guise of some pathetic public appeal for a husband within a year. There are plenty of meal-ticket men that woulda signed onto her charade and wifed her if she 1) had better marketing or 2) wasn’t trying to marry up and out of her league (i’d bet she had some narrowly defined list of what she’s looking for in a husband, cause if she’s really that desperate…beggers can’t be choosers) If she stayed in her lane, she would crashed into enough suitors a long time ago.
#4 by Miss Skeptical on January 8, 2010 - 3:37 pm
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Maybe I’m naive, but I think there is someone out there for everyone. He’ll come along soon enough. Now that she’s not on the prowl, she won’t destroy her chances of attracting his affection by scaring him off with desperation.
And, yes, she’s reasonably attractive. Her beauty is reflected much better in the video than the unflattering photo.
I give her props for allowing herself to be so vulnerable and honest in front of an unknown audience.
#5 by Serenity302 on January 18, 2010 - 11:00 am
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Maybe its me, but I think “prowling” for someone to marry you or be in a relationship is pathetic. Despite the fact that she may be a nice person, good personality, etc, etc, etc…the desperation weighed more than all of the good things about her. I commend her for putting herself out there, but everyone knows that when you are desperate for anything, things will never work out.
I think she needs to be happy with herself and love will eventually find her.
#6 by Jeff on January 20, 2010 - 5:00 pm
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Hmmm…
Some women are so stuck on the premise or idea of marriage that they come off the wrong way and look desperate. If she’s openly stating that she was trying to find a husband in side of a year, then that says more than simple desperation to me…that says she doesn’t know how to go about looking for the things that will make a long term relationship work.
Meaning, if all a woman is out to do is find a husband, yes, most of us as men can pick up on that and with the slightest twinge of desperation comes the increased capacity for drama queen/psycho-girl tendencies. It simply suggests a certain degree of emotional instability which is what (more often than not) makes men run.
If a woman is “actively on the prowl” to get a husband then it’s going to elude her because the way she comes across will send up a red flag in the eyes of most men and worse still, she’s looking at the characteristics (financial, physical, etc.) of a man rather than getting to know what’s in his heart…
You have to really get to know someone on a deeper level, face the realities and faults/ intricacies in the personalities of both parties to make a marriage and longer lasting relationship work and most folks who move that fast in a year’s time end up in divorce not too long thereafter…
Just my thoughts…