Comments on: Are marriage proposals dead?

By: JustinCase

JustinCase — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:25:05 +0000

And, as much as i’m a believer that the pomp and circumstance added to the marriage experience over the decades is ridiculous (getting the biggest diamond you can afford for her to show off, elongating the wedding planning process so that unnecessarily expensive wedding details can be planned, etc.) and part of the problem; I don’t believe that marriage proposals are dead.

Since, for the most part, marriage is something that men are conditioned to avert at all costs until they’re absolutely sure, how one puts his own style into it is pretty important and telling. If he half-asses it or needs to be told to do it, chances are he probably didn’t wanna do it in the first place. As they most likely are entering into a new life of being told what needs to be done (and the inevitable how to do it), assured men owe it to themselves to exercise probably the last real sole discretion he’ll have regarding the wedding, or anything else really.

By: Let Women Propose

Let Women Propose — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 17:23:26 +0000

So let me get this straight, is there something wrong with a woman proposing to a guy? We are entering the age of total gender equality, I would actually like a woman to propose to me? Kind of sexy and liberating….

By: Richard

Richard — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 09:48:55 +0000

Of course one should propose. My proposal was not original, as I’m sure it has been done (though I have never seen or heard it done.) I was going back to South Africa from UAE and arranged for one of the airport security officials to bring 50 roses behind security. (I had been gone for over five months by the way and hadn’t seen her since I left.) Then the Ethiopian Airlines attendants gave me permission to talk to everyone on the plane. I showed everyone a picture of my (now) wife and they agreed to walk out and give her a rose. They did. Even the pilots agreed to do it. I walked out with the last few roses and proposed.

It creates a memory. It creates a moment in time that will never be forgotten. The thought, effort, and work I put into that was greatly appreciated, which is part of what marriage is all about…appreciating your partner. So no…the art of proposing is not dead and let’s hope it doesn’t die anytime soon!

By: ShoNuff

ShoNuff — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 04:39:43 +0000

Um yes! The idea of a man not proposing is ridiculous. You should of course talk about being married to make sure that you both understand what you are getting into; from what I hear, marriage is very difficult. He should also want to ensure that you are going to say yes! But seriously how do you decide to get married without asking the woman to marry you? Are women going to be expected to ask men next? And buy men engagement rings?

By: The Tiffany's Guy

The Tiffany's Guy — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 22:07:10 +0000

I hear you but after spending thousands of dollars at Tiffany’s for her does how I propose really matter? Isn’t she just concerned with getting that fancy ring in that little cute blue box?

Everything else is extra don’t you think.

By: Hopeless Romantic

Hopeless Romantic — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 19:14:57 +0000

Yes, yes, yes & YES! There must be a REAL proposal. You MUST put significant thought into it. And, it must be specific to your relationship (i.e. you can’t steal a romantic proposal from some movie you saw). It’s hard enough to keep the romance going while married; you can’t start it off romance-less!!!

P.S. I don’t like the idea of ring shopping together, and having to tell a guy to propose. It should be a surprise. What woman doesn’t like surprises?! (Can you tell I’ve seen too many Disney movies?)