Cornering Cupid

Carrie & Mr. Big

I was channel surfing this weekend and in between college football and some NBA games…there he was: Mr. Big pursuing Carrie for the umpteenth time. Yes, ladies…guys do watch Sex and the City (as to why…that’s for another day / another time). But as I sat there watching, Mr. Big (who was married in this episode) resurrect himself into Carrie’s life (she was dating a new boyfriend), the question immediately popped into my mind: when it’s over…is it really over? I mean casting aside the fact that Mr. Big was married (I’m not one for infidelity nor cheating on any person) here was a man who still clearly had deep feelings and true love for a woman who for all intensive purposes had seemingly moved on. I mean Carrie had a new boyfriend and even took all measures in front of Mr. Big to profess it was over…finito…no mas but yet it clearly wasn’t. Yet and still, the more Mr. Big pursued the more he seemed to break down that barrier or wall that Carrie had erected. Maybe there was no wall to begin with and Carrie just couldn’t put up with a man who didn’t know what he wanted and so she moved on. Or maybe it was Mr. Big who after being apart from Carrie he realized what he couldn’t when he was with her: that he simply could not live without this woman. Well, as I sat watching, while I had a feeling I knew what would happen…I was still in disbelief it played out so well. Despite professing she was done and that he, Mr. Big, was crazy, Carrie listened to Mr. Big’s voice on her answering machine for like 5 times trying to discern was he still interested, why was he still calling me, what does he want? Perhaps she was just posturing for what she knew all along…that she was going to return his phone call because she had to. Maybe it was the unknown or her curiosity of wanting to know what was up with this man, but as all expected despite the sage advice of her girls she called him back and even met with him. They not only met at the hotel lobby, but Mr. Big followed her up to her room and after she tried to push him away the next thing you know they were kissing and then lying on the bed together…probably thinking their fate was inevitable. While this seemed so surreal and I was like come on you have to be kidding me, the more I started to ponder…when is it really over? Surely when the person you have been longing for or seemingly let get away walks down that aisle…that would be one indication. But absent such a wedding is it really ever over? I mean even in the Sex and the City movie, Mr. Big left Carrie stranded at the altar and he was able to win her back albeit it took time and effort. The point though is that in the end…he fought for her and I guess there was a part of her that still deep down loved this man. So was this just Hollywood or is it just that….it’s never really over?