It's just a one night stand...
I found myself taking part in an interesting conversation with a girlfriend the other night.
She was head over heels in like (not love, not yet) with a guy she’d met the night before. She was at a party, she was drinking, flirting, chatting with a group of guys, and one caught her eye. After a few hours of flirty conversation, she took him home. They had a drunken night of sex and when she woke up in the morning, he was still there.
“After we had sex two times, around 4:00am, I asked him if he wanted a ride home,” she said.
“But he didn’t, he said he wanted to stay (if I didn’t mind).”
She was elated. She was totally head over heels. And by the time of our conversation, she’d already received a text from him thanking her for a good night.
Since the first encounter, she’s had him over again, for a night visit and he even stayed for breakfast.
She’s basically calling him her boyfriend.
I’ve always respected my friend for being strong and independent when it came to men and sex. She’s promiscuous, she’s not one to hesitate when offered the opportunity to take home a man she likes, and she has no problem with a one night stand.
But, if she is truly comfortable in her skin, and just open to having a good time, no strings attached, like she claims (and of course, totally not interested in being in a relationship) I wouldn’t expect her to be so easily impressed and enamored by small gestures like sleep-overs and text messages.
Why are some of us women so confused? You want a man, you need a man and you’re just so afraid of failing to win one that you pretend it isn’t a priority.
Is there a male version of this syndrome???
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